“Girls must be smarter than guys, I’ve only had one dude in my cab all night!” — Male cab driver, around midnight Saturday of MDW
some of the best dating advice I've seen lately
So, the past month or so, I’ve had some interesting exchanges with the exboyfriend known as coworker. We got into a bit of a fight over im about 6 weeks ago, I was upset about something and therefore cranky, and he in turn told me to stop being a bitch or to go away. I told him to have a nice day and blocked him from im. If we couldn’t get on each other’s nerves, it would be better for both of us, I thought.
Well, there is the little issue of we still work together. Thankfully it’s really occasional. Maybe 2 weeks went by, and he was at work (he’s sort of just a call-in IT person for a library where I work very few hours, so it’s not as bad as it could be.) Anyway my computer was acting up and I needed his assistance, and it would have been easier to just im him from gchat than to look all over the library for him. I found him, it was a quick fix on his end (which made me look stupid), whatevs.
2mins later he emails me and asks if I’m done blocking him. I ask him if he’s done being a dick. He comes back with ‘maybe.’ He continues to im me for awhile that day after I’d unblocked him.
What time are you working til? He ims me.
Anyone who’s ever had me on google chat, knows that with my hectic schedule, I always post what my schedule is for the day. That’s partly so I can remember, and partly so my best friend knows where I am. (I live alone, she likes to make sure I login to google in the AM so she knows I made it to whichever job I’m supposed to be at.) This was something I’ve done before, during and after my relationship with Coworker.
He’s in the office working on something, and has a bird’s eye view of the refdesk. He im’s to ask what the librarian and I are discussing, we look serious, he says. I simply say: Creeper, and he’s all I’m not a creeper! I respond death, because she was clueing me in on her religious rites of remembering a loved one who has passed on.
That’s morid he says to me.
Two nights later he im’s me-I’m at a completely different library, and all he says is:
Can you tell me the way to a woman’s heart?
I say No.
Why not?
I’m not going to help you pick up chicks.
Why not?
You didn’t listen to me when we were together, why would you listen to me now?
And that cued some radio silence, at least for a few days….
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You’ve had so many dating adventures. Found any married men trying to score dates online?
I actually have not had this problem, at least not that I know of. I have heard a few horror stories of guys lying about their single status. Anyone have any stories they’d like to share, message me if you’d like to keep it anon.
I did meet a guy in a bar one time with my old housemate playing wingwoman, turns out the dude who got my number was married and did it all the time. His friend told my housemate…and then the married dude never called me, phew. I’d have told him off if he did after that!
One of today’s matches:
Is sporting a wedding ring in his picture. Um…yeah, time for some more recent photos dude.
Tumblr influenced Target purchases… (Taken with instagram)
Aka no dudes trying to get in my pants. But it’s only Wednesday! Lol
The only dude on eharm of note is a history teacher from north of the city. Actually a really nice guy, his only downfalls are that he’s a Mets fan (Jk!!) and not local.
Prepped #ootd (Taken with instagram)