February 2012
34 posts
once again, Kayt wins the internet:
itsohkayt replied to your post: The fastest date in [my] dating history
I would have responded: “The library has great how-to books on dating.”
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The fastest date in [my] dating history
This happened last weekend. I’ll post about this weekend after ive had some time to think about it, & see how things go…
So. I meet a 33y/o from western Nassau county (job: actuary), in a south shore town neither he nor I are particularly familiar with. Why?
Because it appeared warmer than it was & he suggested we take a walk by water somewhere by me, & I...
Just had an hour & a half long convo with the guy I was completely honest with about the baby-wanting thing.
Guess I haven’t scared him away just yet! Hes from LI but lives on the continent now…we both grew up in towns with less than stellar reps so we have that in common…
Bold moves 2012 ftw.
What a mother warns her single daughter...
Single as in not-married, b/c my bud Virginia found herself a hot, educated boyfriend! But the quote from her mom was just too good not to share: but please do not take offense! Especially my girl Kelly/babs a hottie who rocks short hair!
V: I was thinking of cutting my hair short
Mom: I’m pretty sure boys your age like long hair…
I’ve been emailing with this guy for a few weeks on eHarm, and he asked what my 5 year plan is. Um. I totally told the truth; that i plan on settling down, hope to be a dept head, and have a child (30-no babies before 30, and in 5 years I’ll be 31, turning 32)
So…cheers with some Skinnygirl vodka to scaring dudes away. ;) but here’s to being honest & not holding back...
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Third time's a charm? Lol
So the guy who got scared off outside the brewery, and Coworker, both have the same first name, are IT guys & live in the same town.
Guess what! Another guy with the same first name, job type & hometown messaged me on eHarm.
Yep.
What is my life? Lol
the kind of things that only happen to me..
So, this guy I was for some reason pretty stoked to meet. Italian without being a Guido (in high school I was convinced brainwashed that I’d marry an Italian, I also wore a nameplate & permed my hair, don’t judge me), a tech guy (I’m pretty much convinced I’m going to marry a tech guy, that’s about the only connection the last few guys I’ve dated have), we...
eHarm has a new feature for your profile: you can write out questions that when answered, will display your answer to the potential match.
It’s already been helpful in eliminating someone who contacted me today; one of his questions was your opinion of Sexting-and when I replied that I didn’t like the question, his answer was ‘Sexy’
Which is a little ‘captain...
the 2nd date.
I’ve only had one 2nd date so far, and it was with the shy guy about 8 years older than me. We had our first date on a Sunday, and then my schedule was bat-shit crazy and so we decided to do brunch on the morning of the superbowl. He chooses a place that’s about halfway between us, a pretty nice spot on the south shore.
When I get there, I recognize his car from the first date (we...
Well, one benefit to online dating is that my tri-state geography is improving!
I can basically look at a name of a town and name the state.
So there’s that…
Stumble will probably be the only way I ever meet...
meghanunc replied to your post: The North Shore Guido
i love your dating recaps! i can’t wait for you to stumble upon the right guy!
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The North Shore Guido
I of course meet a north shore guido. Yes that probably makes me sound like a bitch, but seeing as how myself and my parents grew up on the north shore, I can call it when I see it. I probably should have known better since he listed the model of car he drives in his profile (mustang), but I am trying to be open.
We met after a random day of texting, at a local brewery, and he was rather dressed...
So one of my matches on eHarm has 2 pictures: one with hair, and another with a completely bald head.
It’s giving me flash-backs to Spring ‘10, and the guy who had his profile picture of a thin man (I assume it was him), and the rest of his pictures were him about 50lbs+ heavier. While with that guy, I could understand gaining weight and then feeling insecure is an issue especially...
itsohkayt asked: You need to develop a list of pre-date screening questions. #1-would you grope me through my coat?
in which the island is a bit small...as usual.
So, and this is just me, but I give all my login info to Librarian A whenever I join anything dating related. Partly for the “if my body goes missing” and partly because she’s curious and gives the best advice.
So, a few days after joining, she logged in to see with whom I’d been in contact. And turns out one guy from Nassau county she’s met a few times-they have a...
Those 8 ppl in line outside at 10min to 8 got all...
Overheard about quarter after 8
Young target employee: What is he, a new designer?!
Manager: no, that’s why it’s kind of a big deal…
YTE: oh…
Acquired 2 shirts & some groceries, not sure what if I’ll keep ‘em both.
Ok, it’s back to bed for me!
One of my eharm matches has legit professional photos that look like they’re straight from a low-rent rap album cover. And from where I grew up, I’d know that straight up.
I don’t have anything against rap music it’s just strange, though I read on dutifully & he has a great vocabulary. Minus a few jersey shore-esque phrases.
Um…hmm. Why can’t the nerdy...
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& I thought I was awkward...
so one of the guys I was matched with is 34, decent job, nice boy from a nice sorta old school Italian family. The kind of Italian my grandmother would have wept tears of joy over, not the GTL kind. (My dad’s mom used to tell my brother & me we were only Italian, which is such a lie. She was a pisser..fucking Alzheimer’s.)
Anyway. We go through all the eharm stuff, and then email...
from my inbox...
“All you have to ask is if he is seeing anyone else. Unless he’s as dumb as a rock, he knows what you’re really asking without any of the awkward pressure. The profile wipe is a good sign. :) Good luck and keep us posted!”
Just an FYI, this is totally not for me! lol but I do like the approach, it’s basic/to the point.
putting this out there for tumblr to help me...
The question…
So I met this awesome guy online and we’ve been seeing each other for almost 2 months come February 14th. My first question is, is it a good sign if he pretty much wipes his online profile clean (no pictures, personal description is gone)? and Secondly, things are great but we haven’t had the “make this official convo yet,” I’ve met his mom and...
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still queen of the awkward moment.
My latest foray back into the world of online dating has resulted in not one but several awkward dates. The first one ill tell ya about is the sales guy who was not a fan of speaking on the phone (I asked him if he wanted to talk for a bit instead of text and his response was “I’m not very good on the phone, just so you’re warned.”)
Umm…you’ve supposedly got a...
All week I’ve been a day ahead of myself. I had to keep reminding myself not to go to the wrong library this morning! Tonight at work I wrote a note out for the morning crew & signed it 8:45pm on Thursday.
Possibly a little two excited for my 2days off this weekend after working 3 weeks straight…
Ah so I’m still reading in my google reader but very behind in questions, my...
January 2012
36 posts
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my online dating choice...
fatgirlinohio replied to your post: Someone with a name straight out of the Godfather…
What made you choose eHarm? Curious. One of my friends met a great guy on there but I have heard mixed reviews.
Hey there, thanks for the question (it’s not the only one I’ve received, my apologies!These 12hour work days are really starting to kick my ass).
Well, having done a few of them in...
Someone with a name straight out of the Godfather just sent me a message on eHarm. My Italian grandmother would be overjoyed…
this is a grateful post.
It’s the little things that count and I have to say, I’m a really lucky gal.
This past weekend Librarian A and her husband were getting ready for one of their first par-tays at their new home. The weather predictions for the date of the party said snow, so they discussed it and told me I’d better spend the night-a few days beforehand. I could have burst into tears, it was so...
I don’t think I’ll ever forget Monday night, talking to my former coworkers at the full time gig.
‘How do I tell the girls, how do I call a meeting and tell the kids that he’s gone?’ that conversation will haunt me forever.
Hug your friends & family; life is just too short. I’m still in shock, that the biggest ray of light on campus is gone, gone...
Bethenny getting her own talk show. →
kitcater:
They’re testing it this summer on Fox to see if its a hit or not. Another reason why I need to find a way to not have to work anymore.
y’all know how much I love B…
for librarians looking for jobs... →
figured I’d pass along but not sure if it’ll be helpful outside of NYState.
Kayt wins on the internet today, please pack up...
itsohkayt replied to your post: At least my blog will be more fun now…
He’s out there. I will find him and fedex him.
At least my blog will be more fun now...
So…how surprised would you all be if I said I was back on a dating site?
Yeah I didn’t think you would be…
Back to the awkward/hysterical stories in the search for Mr. Right!
digital dating tips...
thanks to everyone who wrote in! here are some noteworthy hints in no particular order…
-frequently update your online profile; adding a new photo might just get ya some new views! According to Oprah.com, a well written profile is key, and think of it this way: in the bar you get a 2 second chance, with your online profile you have multiple chances to grab someone’s attention.
-be as...
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this is one of the best things I've read on dating... →
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re: dating
Thanks so much to everyone for the input on how to keep your online dating profile up-to-date. I’m still compiling that info, but in the meantime I thought I’d address women’s winter date apparel….
One thing to keep in mind is of course, dress appropritely for the occassion. Don’t over do-it for a coffee date, it may come off as being silly or high-maintence. Blogger...
Would love to have your input!!
I would never claim to have all the answers….
Anyone have any tips on how to make one’s profile stand out from the crowd?
Also: winter weather date-wear.
I’d like to compile your tips for a handy list for the person asking (: